牽手走過流淚谷：基督徒夫妻走過婚姻衝突之敘說研究─對偶觀點

Abstract

本研究旨在瞭解基督徒夫妻面對婚姻衝突的歷程，而基督信仰在此歷程中扮演何種角色，以及基督徒夫妻如何詮釋婚姻衝突的意義。本研究採取立意取樣及滾雪球取樣，深入訪談三對基督徒夫妻，婚齡分別為12、22、31年，其中一對基督徒夫妻為婚前成為基督徒，另外兩對則於婚後成為基督徒。 分析方式採用質性方法中的敘說分析，將訪談逐字稿轉化成故事文本，以敘事分析之「整體－內容」模式進行分析，撰寫其個別婚姻故事以及跨故事分析，並於綜合討論中呈現夫妻婚姻生活、婚姻衝突中，原生家庭對其之影響、基督信仰對其之影響以及基督徒夫妻對婚姻衝突意義之詮釋。 本研究所歸納之結果如下： ㄧ、父母的互動方式、因應衝突方式、教育內涵、家庭氣氛等原生家庭因素影響夫妻互動方式、因應衝突方式、婚姻期待。 二、個性差異及性別角色期待因素為婚姻衝突來源之重要因素。 三、基督信仰於基督徒夫妻認知、情感、行為的影響力明顯出現於衝突之後的冷靜思考階段。 四、基督信仰中的「饒恕」觀幫助基督徒夫妻走過婚姻衝突。 五、教會開設的「婚前輔導」課程有益基督徒夫妻學習經營合乎《聖經》的婚姻關係。 六、基督徒夫妻對婚姻衝突之詮釋為「自我成長」、「彼此了解」、「釘死老我」。 根據以上研究結果，研究者給予對婚姻諮商專業人員、教牧諮商輔導人員、基督教會牧養夫妻者、對基督徒夫妻以及對未來研究之建議。

The purpose of this study is to understand the process that Christian couples resolved the conflict they encountered in marriage, what roles their faith in Christianity played in this process, and how these Christian couples made sense of the conflicts in marriage. Purposive sampling and snowball sampling were adopted to recruit three pairs of married Christian couples whose semi-structured interviews were conducted with them in pairs. The length of these couples’ marriage were 10, 20, and 30 years respectively. One of the three pairs became Christians before getting married. The other two turned religious after getting married. Data was analyzed using the “holistic-content” and “categorical-content” method in narrative inquiry. Interviewer verbatim for each couple was first turned into individual written stories. Cross-story analysis was then conducted. Results of the current study were as follow: 1. Interaction between couples, conflict resolution, and expectation to marriage of the participants were associated with the styles of interaction and conflict resolution, the education level and family dynamic that participants learned from their parents. 2. Differences regarding individual differences and gender roles were important factors in marital conflicts. 3. The role of Christianity became salient in regulating these couples thoughts, feelings, and behaviors at the post-conflict “calm down and reflection” stage. 4. The Christian concept of forgiveness played a significant role in Christian couples through marital conflict. 5. The pre-marriage preparation course was found helpful in guiding Christian couples to manage and maintain marital relationship in compliance with the teachings of Bible. 6. The meanings of marital conflicts in the eyes of these couple included: "personal growth", "mutual understanding", and "crucify the old man". Suggestions were made in accordance with the research findings to couple and marriage counselors, pastoral counselors, Christian fellows who play the role as a shepherd for other Christian couples, as well as Christian couples. Directions for future research were also indicated.